This young woman chooses remain anonymous. She was also interviewed for the Birmingham Post last December.
"My relationship with my boy friend relationship has caused me some trouble. I got kicked out of home because I was seeing a Muslim and my family is Catholic.
Dad stopped speaking to me altogether. He didn’t like the fact that the baby would be Asian - the shame of it. We had loads of arguments. Mom was different. At first she said
'I hope you are joking’ but now she is just concerned for me and the baby.
The rest of the family do speak to me, specially my cousins and friends.
I stayed with friends and family for around two years. Carrying on working was really hard as I was not settled, I couldn’t do college as I was in between everyewhere . I had to handle everything and manage as well as I could.
When I found out I was pregnant I had to finalise something soon. I thought that I could work for another 7 months so I had some time to organises something but when I told the boss he said I had to leave right then.
I had been sleeping on people's sofas and floors. I knew I couldn't carry on doing this with a child. I came in to Trentham because I didn’t know what else to do. It was really upsetting to come as I didn’t want to upset my family, I am still with my boyfriend.
My dad was ashamed of him. I have brothers and my dad is more strict with me than them. He expected more of me than to get pregnant with a Moslem child!
Here at Trentham.
There are rules here but they are good for everyone. Being pregnant means that I don’t want to be out all night anyway. The staffcome up to the room asking if everything is okay every so often.
Lorna (staff) is half Asian and she tells you the truth, of what I must face up to. She doesn’t tell you just what you what to hear. She understands things, tells you things, like what can happen.
I know I’ve got someone to relate to, its better than speaking to my cousins etc.
I’ve never looked after a child so I need support anyway.
I can look forward and know people are here for me. I’ve got Mom and cousins but they won't be able to help me all the time.
